The Smartest Susan’s Slippery Slope
I am pretty sure that Susan has no idea she is always acting like she’s the smartest person in the room (and failing at it).
In fact, when I have that discussion with her, I bet she’s going to deny it. Then she will consider it. Then she’ll feel embarrassed by it. Then she’ll change.
The question is, when will she be ready to see it?
I haven’t brought it up with her yet because, honestly, I don’t think she’s ready. There are a few more things we are working on in our coaching relationship to help build up to greater self-awareness.
But that’s the thing about people who fall victim to the Dunning-Kruger Effect. They truly believe they know everything and will dismiss anybody who doesn’t agree.
It’s not that they aren’t open to the truth, it’s just that they aren’t yet ready to see it.
Finding What’s Hiding In Plain Sight
If you think through your life, I’m sure you can come up with moments of clarity when you suddenly saw a different perspective about yourself.
Maybe it was when you realized that trying to make everybody happy never works.
Perhaps it was the moment you acknowledged your Imposter Syndrome.
Or maybe it’s when you recognized what your true strength and calling really is.
Only you know that moment of clarity.
It’s easy to feel shame about it when you’re in the moment. I’ve been there.
It’s easy to feel like you’ve wasted time being someone who isn’t the real you. I’ve been there too.
The reality, though, is that we all have a blind spot around who we are and what we do. It’s not a disease, it’s not a failure, it’s just that life is a never-ending, pot-hole filled path of self-awareness.
If you’re a leader, my advice to you is to always lean in to feedback. Understand your superpower and embrace your kryptonite.
In fact, I have created a leadership assessment that I do for people and companies that is pretty powerful. But you don’t need me to do it, you can do a basic one yourself.
Get feedback from others – the good and the bad – on who you are and how you conduct yourself. And choose to believe the results.
Just remember, the most successful leaders are the ones who are ready to see the things they haven’t been looking for.
They’re always hiding in plain sight.